MEN AND PORN: WHAT’S THE DEAL?

men n pornMen and porn: what’s the deal?…. Dr Gabrielle Morrissey, author of Spicy Sex, has the answers to all these questions, and more.

Why do men enjoy porn? Men are highly aroused by visual sexual stimuli. Their brains are slightly different to women’s and the visual input they receive can be translated directly into sexual arousal very quickly. Men can be turned on by colour (red more often than black), and interestingly 8 out of 10 men fantasise about a women who is wearing something sexy than one who is naked — the visual sexual teasers are very exciting for men. Porn is one of the expressions of this enjoyment.

Do men watch it mainly for entertainment or for sexual satisfaction? Most men watch porn for an element of sexual satisfaction – from arousal to climax, and everything in between.

Why do men in relationships still look at porn? Variety is a staple in a satisfying sex life, and whether couples engage in many different kinds of sex together (like all of the 52 different ideas presented in my latest book, Spicy Sex!), the brain is our most important sexual organ. Many partners (women and men) fantasise, or use the visual stimulation to keep a sense of variety, pleasure and excitement in a safe way that doesn’t stray outside the relationship. If a couple considers watching porn cheating, they should discuss this.

Should women be worried or unhappy if their partner views porn alone?  Not unless it causes her distress or if the man is watching so much porn that it negatively impacts the relationship or his ability to function in life. Internet based porn can become quickly addictive. In terms of her partner viewing porn without her, she can negotiate this with him, but an element of fantasy and self pleasure is viewed by many couples as a private and healthy outlet, whether accompanied by porn or not.

men n porn 2How can it impact a relationship if a couple views porn together? As an experimentation it can be very exciting, and as a variation to play with in a monogamous relationship, and if both partners are curious and aroused, it can be healthy. If one partner feels threatened, jealous or insecure, then this ought to be discussed together because negative feelings can linger and affect both the emotional and sexual relationship if not dealt with.

Do you agree with her?

By: Julia Surname

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