Could your love life use a little spicing up? We found these three bits of wisdom from sex therapist Laura Berman, PhD and director of the Berman Center in Chicago. Dr. Berman has shared her secrets for sizzling sex in her book The Passion Prescription. These sex tips should raise the temperature of your sex life!
Love your body It’s hard to enjoy sex when you have negative feelings about your body. According to Dr. Berman, “Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas. She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner’s kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!’”
To counteract this poor self-image, the doctor’s sex advice suggests that you look at yourself naked in the mirror at least once a week, focusing on your favourite body parts. Touch those parts and say aloud what you like most about them. Cultivate a positive self-image and soon you’ll be eager to toss off your clothes and jump into bed!
Don’t be afraid to try something new and exciting Being in a long relationship can be cozy and comfortable, but sometimes you can get into a rut and start feeling like the sex isn’t as hot as it used to be. Dr. Berman suggests reliving the wilder, early days of your love affair by trying something new and daring, like scuba diving or a helicopter ride, to get the blood and heart pumping. “Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had in the beginning of your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other.”
Speak up about what turns you on According to Dr. Berman, “Men want to be your knight in shining armour when it comes to sex – they’re eager for you to tell them what feels good. The problem is, so many women are out of touch with their bodies they have no idea what to say.” Hopefully, you’ve gotten in touch with your own body by trying the self-image booster above and are ready to show your partner what you really like!
Dr. Berman suggests putting your hand on top of his and guiding him to the ways you want to be touched. Want oral sex or have a favourite sex toy? Speak up! “This is the only way he’s going to know what works for you.”
What’s your favourite piece of sex advice?